The Sparkle Fairy Sharing Secrets!
True Confessions Magic!
Last month’s “Love, Trust, and True Confessions” was (in my opinion) one of the most important days in My Everyday Magic history! It helped show everyone how the things we hide from others are also the things they’re hiding from us. It made us realize how we’re more alike than we thought. And I, for one, found it incredibly freeing (not to mention humorous!).
Since then I’ve been fully committed to being my AUTHENTIC SELF, flaws and all. And I’ve found that it’s easier to love myself and others when we share those parts of ourselves that we usually hide. So join me and share some of your dirty little secrets ~ it’s become my most healthy addiction! (For some added “true confessions” inspiration, check out this refreshing and illuminating blog post from Project Happily Ever After. I’m ashamed to say that number 3 on her list really makes me giggle uncontrollably!)
My Confessions
* I take a nap EVERY DAY with my 2 year old while my 5 year old is plugged into PBS. I used to hide this (don’t know why?) but now I embrace the fact that I’m a champion napper ~ I always have been and hopefully always will be. After I wake up, I read in bed until my 2 year old wakes up. Part of me feels guilty that I’m not spending one-on-one time with my 5 year old instead of sleeping and reading, but every fiber of my being enjoys this “quiet time” and it makes me a more patient, loving mother. My 5 year old is definitely not complaining about getting the TV to himself for 90 minutes a day. And on that note…
* We have children’s TV on for an average of 5 hours a day ~ sometimes less, sometimes more. There’s about 2 hours in the morning as I exercise, clean, make breakfast, and post my Magic. Then there’s the 90 minute nap-tv-time. And then there’s about 90 minutes before bed. This is something I still feel a little guilty about since I always had this ideal of being a no-TV family. But I’m starting to appreciate TV as being part of my “tribe” allowing me to get certain things done easier and also to get the downtime I so desperately need. And if I figure that my 5 year old is awake for 14 hours of the day and with me the WHOLE TIME, then 5 little hours doesn’t seem so bad. Right? Right! (I’m still working on getting it down, though…Ack!….this is a tough one for me!)
* I don’t fold laundry….EVER! I either take the clean laundry out of the dryer and stuff it into drawers or I let it stay in the dryer until my cleaning lady comes to fold it…every two weeks! HA-HA-HA!!! I don’t even feel badly about this one! And on that note…
* I only wash clothes when they’re stained or smell ~ other than that I’m all for the whole family getting multiple wears out of their clothes. I don’t feel badly about this one either ~ it’s better for the environment!
* I only wash our sheets about every month or two! Which is why having crisp, clean sheets makes my MAGIC list every time I have them! 
Okay, I think that’s it for me today! Though I may come and post more as they come to me! It’s just so much fun!
My Everyday Magic
* My friend, Melanie, for pointing me in the direction of Project Happily Ever After! Thanks, Mel!
* A wonderful playground group yesterday!
* Tomato-basil salad and mushroom pizza for dinner last night.
* A GREAT night’s sleep!
* True Confessions!
Join me in my newest addiction and post a dirty little secret ~ it only makes us love you MORE!!!
Confession:
I only get really dressed (bra and such) when we go out or I know someone is coming over. All other times are comfy cloths. Sometimes I do not get the door because I am in a top and undies and I am a bit fluffy so do not want to inflict others with how I look.
Every Day Magic
* Support of friends helped me get through some of the worst times of my life as of late. An online friend texted me yesterday at JUST the right time, and I needed her words so badly.
* The magic that a little compassion can change a life.
* The smell of specially made soap that makes me feel like myself again.
* A husband that loves me unconditionally.
* Children who are simply adorable and fall asleep together in a pile of blankets and pillows and adore eachother.
* My sweet 4 month old singing in court yesterday and me not caring if people did not understand why I needed my nurseling with me.
* Movie night!
BookGoddess, as soon as I get home, it’s comfy clothes for me too! We call them duddies ’round here! I love you!
Great idea! (and I laughed at #3 too!)
Confessions:
*My younger three don’t bathe as often as they should. They take over an hour to get in and back out, and it’s just a pain.
*I don’t enjoy ‘play on the floor with the kids’ time. Never have. I like them so much more once they can actually DO stuff lol
*I also don’t change my sheets as often as I should, nor do I put away laundry often. Not as rare as you Kate, but well, lets just say that this moring I’ve put away a TON and am not caught up yet lol
*my kids drink kool aid. Yup. Hubby loves it, makes it, and they all get a small cup lol
And MEM
*all that laundry putting away means my room is nearly clean! Next the little’s room, soon my whole upstairs will feel nice to spend time in
*was inspired by the new couch, have spent the last week in that room cleaning, organizing, and tweeking. It actually feels relaxing to be in there now.
*started in the kitchen, and am excited to be able to enjoy in there again
*FALL I love this time of year, and it’s starting!
*this one is a stretch. Dh has a yucky test tomorrow (spinal tap involved, which he HATES). But the magic is that with that info, plus from yesterday’s test, we actually might have real info about why he is in pain, next step can try to improve it!
*pumpkin. My fave food and decor!
I wonder how many mamas actually LOVE playing on the floor with their kids? I can take it for a few minutes, then I get bored! I love you!
I love true confessions!! I wash and fold my laundry, no problem. I just never put it away! Clothes are piled up all over my apartment, car, wherever!
I only wash my hair 2x a week, which I do for good reasons! I am proud to say it. However…. I only shower when I wash my hair
which I definitely don’t admit to!
I am on my cell phone (texting, mostly) far too much when I am with the kids. The pull of adult conversation is just way too strong! I frequently put them off by pretending I’m doing something important, just to text. Eek!
MEM:
Sleeping in my favorite bed last night and seeing my girlies today!
No work til 3 pm Yay!!
Getting my knitting mojo back
Fun texts! (see above)
Talking to my bff on the phone last night.
I actually just want to learn HOW to text! Hee-hee! I love you!
I don’t’ have time to go through my confessions at the moment- because as usual am rushing to get a good dinner ready before soccer practice- okay maybe just one confession…I pack way too much into every day and often rush through life just to fit it all in… but after reading todays comments I am reminded of what Maya Angelou says,
“We are more alike than unalike”.
I love that quote, Amy!!! And I love YOU!!
ooo ~ opeing up to “confess” can be a lil scary.. haha
* I sometimes don’t pay attention b/c my daydreams are sooo much more interesting.
* I am an ultimate procrastinator thus letting certain responsibilities pile.
* I am always looking for something better ~ which can bring positives and negatives.
* I’m sure there will be more next month hehe
recentMagic*
* catching up with the bff this week ~ hardly anyone makes me smile like she does.
* more excited than scared (finally) for the next big move in my life
* inside jokes
* watching (actively experiencing) personal growth ~ it’s a beautiful thing when you can see how you’ve changed for the betterment of yourself
<3
My daydreams rock, too! I love you, Glow!
I sure hope someone chimes in with TV confessions to let me off the hook a little bit…anyone?… pretty please?
I refuse to confess about the TV thing (though I think I did last month). Like I said then, it doesn’t interfere with other aspects of life so I refuse to feel guilty about it. Since the beginning of people we’ve learned through story-telling. TV is no different other than it’s accessibility. So, like everything else, moderation is the key. But if it makes you feel better, M watches a lot of TV. Sometimes 30-60 mins in the morning (depending on schedule), 30-60 mins during lunch (again depending on schedule), then maybe a couple hours at late afternoon/dinner time until bed.
I LOVE your no-guilt-TV-attitude! I think I’ll EMBRACE it!!! I love you!
My kids watch TV during breakfast, lunch and dinner. I can’t get them to eat w/o it now. They hate eating and I find they get more healthy food in if I induce a zombie state. And it’s not all educational either. Lately they are loving Tom and Jerry…ugh!
Isn’t Tom and Jerry the WORST! My dh puts it on for my 5 year old sometimes and I’m aghast at the violence (though I LOVED it as a child too!)
And THANK YOU for making me feel better!!! I love you!
~ Our dining table is currently over run with home ed, toys, and art. This is its usual state, with no room for us to eat until we clean it off. Which we do. Constantly. We just can’t seem to keep it cleared off.
~ My younger two don’t bath as often as would be nice. They hate to take the time from whatever else they are doing or could be doing. I understand and figure when it is more important to the, they’ll do it.
~ There is animal hair on my floor. Always. Even after just sweeping and vacuuming. 4 dogs and 4 cats.
~ I also want something for me, something I’m pursuing for me, something that brings me joy and accomplishment outside of my children or husband.
MEM
* My wonderful children laughing this morning
* This fun fall weather
* An acquaintance from a fire walk almost 20 years ago found me on FB
* How water. Showers.
* A working washing machine
* Clean socks
Your dirty little secrets seem quite normal to me! I love you!
My confessions:
I can waste HOURS in a day playing Tetris on a computer, I have over-extended myself financially, I often have dishes in the sink because I haven’t emptied the dishwasher, my kids have been known to watch an insane amount of tv, fortunately, not so much lately, but there have been days.
My Magic:
~ Sammy – the beautiful, incredible little girl that I met today and instantIy connected with on a soul level. When she held my hand and smiled at me, it was pure magic.
~ Feeling comfortable in a group that a few years would have been uncomfortable for me
~ Reading a delightful new novel
~ Time to chillax this afternoon
~ Talking to friends near and far
~ Realizing my mom and beloved are scheming with my friends…something undoubtably related to my milestone birthday in a few weeks
~ Accepting all of me
~ Love
I LOVE your confessions, LJ!! They make me breathe a sigh of relief! I love you!
I confess to watching on of those ‘Real Housewives’ shows even though they are terrible and not a real picture of what living in NJ is like.
I confess to ignoring my children for ‘internet friends’ way more often than I should.
I confess to biting the sides of my finger nails so badly when anxious that they hurt badly the next day.
MEM-
*maple yogurt pound cake = YUM
*2 new bathing suits on 75% mark down
*preparations for my couples weekend away with hubster starting in 2 days
*finding a new local park with friends and loving the weather here in the shade
Internet friends are just so irresistible!!! I love you!
Okay we do not have TV…BUT G always has a movie going or is playing a video game. And i mean ALWAYS!!!! Or he is on the computer….a movie going is mostly background noise to him. He is not always watching it..but it is always on. So Kate next to me ….you are lookin’ good!!!! OH….and i don’t feel bad about it either. Its just how it is.
I never feel like playing pokemon, bakugan, any video or computer type games, i hate this stuff, and I always get asked to play!
I have PILES of books and paperwork in weird spots ALL over the house…..when someone wants to come and see the house (its for sale) I have to find places to hide it all…sometimes it stays in the hiding place for a LONG time.
MEM
Getting to hoola-hoop in a church to Aretha Franklin….only for a little while…but it was great!!!
Rachel, your confessions ROCK!!! I love you!
Kate, I am still laughing about the laundry thing and so curious about it because I am a bit opposite about the laundry thing. I also love the idea of multiple wears and all but not sure how it actually would work… again, curious about it… we will have to talk!!
My confessions~
I rarely give my kids a bath, like once a month maybe. (ooo, that one is hard to admit)
I have one secret I have never told anyone and would like to gather the courage to tell my soulmate/ husband at some point. Starting with just saying that on here I think is a help as it is not a comfortable secret and probably explains a lot about other areas of my life and will be hard if opened.
I am lazy often.
My magic:
my kids loved all their classes today at the coop we are doing!
I took a yoga class today!!
My 10 yo said he liked the class I taught today!!!!!!!
Sabrina, Your confessions are always so real and raw and make me love you even more! BIG HUGS to you, Dear Sister!
Dear Sabrina,
This is the first time that I have responded to a message on my Sparkle Fairy daughter’s website. If your secret will cause your soulmate some pain, I would suggest that you try out your confession on a family member or friend that you absolutely trust to keep your confidence. Some secrets should stay that way from people that you love and need. If the person you try this out on (someone you absolutely trust) thinks your beloved can handle your secret, go for it. Whatever your secret is, do not be defensive. Talk about it objectively and without emotion. It’s just something that happened, and you learned from it. Love you.
So wonderful to see you here for the first time, in your infinite wisdom, Gramma Fairy! (and now I’m wondering about YOUR secrets!)
I love you!
Thank you and I am honored that you responded. My secret goes way back to when I was somewhere around the age of 10. It may hurt him or make him angry just as it does me, but he is my best friend and it would probably explain a lot about me to him and he would love me even more for me opening up and sharing this with him. I love you, too!
Sabrina, Since it happened in your childhood, you probably didn’t have much control, if any at all. By all means, share it with your best friend. It may free you both. Love you.
Thanks for the shout out and the head’s up. So happy to hear about your authenticity project. One of the secrets to happiness in my experience.
I couldn’t agree MORE, Alisha! Thanks for stopping by! I love your blog and you!
***Confessions***
-I get caught up in looking things up online and can waste hours at it
-I hold grudges
-I get caught up in a “can’t-do-it-right” form of perfectionism which ends up with me not doing stuff at all
-most every flat surface in my house has random stuff on it, mostly papers and books
~~~My Everyday Magic~~~
A very mellow day spent with M, learning stuff. 
Loving having a couple of totally free days during the week 
The way my body wash makes my skin all sparkly 
Got some herbs planted
Okay, I HAVE to know what body wash this is??!! And it’s VERY good to know that grudges, that way I know to never get on your bad side!
I love you!
It’sw Olay Body wash with tone enriching ribbons. It has mica in it and the sparkles aren’t really obvious unless your in bright light & looking closely, then it’s very cool.
Ok, I don’t know what to confess now since i pretty much have to own up to everything everyone else is confessing! We’re all for the multiple clothes wearing, unless I ask my kids to pick up their room, in which case they scoop up all the clothes and dump them into the hamper. Soo glad to hear I’m not the only ones not washing sheets frequently…
my own confessions:
* My laundry is still on the line. I hung it out Tuesday. I hope to get it down before it rains.
* I will sometimes notice some mess (usually something gross related to spilled food or our cat) and I don’t feel like cleaning up. So I “pretend” not to notice in the hopes my honey will be the “first” to see it and have to deal. Shhh.
* My car emissions expired July 20, 2009, and my registration expired July 2010. Paperwork/management stuff is not my forte. Sigh.
* and for the shocker — I don’t get to bed at a decent time. EVER.
So much MEM today!:
* An awesome day yesterday with my little fairy who saddled and rode a big ole horse, wearing a grin from pigtail to pigtail.
* Letting her have space for the lesson gave me time to do some oak meadow stuff with my son, which turned out to be kinda fun.
* Feeling poorly with a horrible headache late afternoon, I took to my bed. Only to be coddled by my awesome kids, who made me tea, brought me lavender essential oil and stroked my temples gently.
* I had printed the recipe I was planning on making, along with instructions for making rice, and my 10 yo and 6 yo cooperated and made red lentil coconut milk soup over brown basmati TOGETHER! And it was DELICIOUS! They inspire me. And clearly I need to feel unwell at least once a week.
* starting our new session of greenspring with yoga and the kids loving the classes they chose.
What fabulous kids you have! And I totally ignored the torn-to-pieces-mouse-present my cat brought home yesterday morning, so my hubby would have to take care of it. Dead carcasses are not my forte.
Of course he asked me to clean the blood up off the hardwood floor…and it’s still there. Too much information?
I love you!
THANK YOU Everyone who was brave enough to put yourself out there!
I’m LOVING our human-ness SO MUCH!!!!! You’re WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!